Her Junior year, 1965

Her Junior year, 1965
What I took to College.

Saturday, November 26, 2011

Last Thanksgiving with Family

I hate to think about this being her last Thanksgiving with the family, but reality is present everyday when I see her. December 1 will mean that she has been in this home for one year. The time has flown bye. I'm not sure that the rest of the family wanted her with us at this time due to having special guests of their own, but I wasn't taking any surveys to find out. People have different reactions when they are around someone with Jan's condition and if they have never seen people with this type disease or just dementia, it can be a shock. To limit the weirdness for family I kept her at a distance and just allowed her to enjoy a good meal in a different setting. She ate everything that went toward her mouth. She was in very good spirits. We left early and proceeded back to her home. They were all glad to see her.
I never thought about it until after I left, but this is very likely to be her last Thanksgiving. Yes, it's the last for alot of things I know, but we have always enjoyed the family gathering at this time of the year.
A year ago Jan entered Autumn Leaves weighing 140 lbs, today she weighs a little over 100 lbs. It has been a turbulent year with her condition the last few months heading down fairly rapidly. We have greatly reduced her medications and have stop trying to steer the ship. The disease is winning against our best efforts and against Jan's strength. It's difficult for her to eat and for staff to even feed her. What happens in three months as this progresses? Six months ago, I wasn't sure she would make it six months. I don't think she can make another six months. God has been busy lately. The window has been wide open on days for us to remember this lovely lady. I know it will eventually close completely but God is helping me to perpare. I found a card that read: THE GIFT OF TIME WE CHERISH. THE GIFT OF LIFE GOES FAST. THE GIFT OF LOVE WILL NEVER END. AS LONG AS MEMORIES LAST.

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