Her Junior year, 1965

Her Junior year, 1965
What I took to College.

Monday, December 27, 2010

When Visiting


I thought it was best to say something about visiting, or more than what I have previously. When visiting with Jan, asking her questions can sometimes frustrate her so careful with asking a bunch of questions. Does she look good, her place is pretty, you have so many friends, or say something about your kids, or family. Say that you saw the Christmas party pictures, or that it's sweet that Christi comes to her to cut her hair. These are just some of the things that works best. I have made these mistakes and had to change quickly before frustrating her.
Jan has almost lost the ability to communicate except for verbiage that comes out of her mouth and you can't understand it, but she doesn't know that, so I say yea, okay, whatever you say, really. Asking her to repeat it is futile, short term memory is gone. Jan cannot open her door to her room, or understand closing the door. She does understand smiles, hugs and compliments. I continue to hear her say thank you to her caregivers, who seem to just love her.
Hope to see you soon

2 comments:

  1. This picture is the best one yet of Jan....it looks like she is doing good. Thanks for the hints on what to do during a visit....the last thing any of us want to do is to frustrate her. Linda L.

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  2. Don
    Would have already been to see her but
    busy getting Mrs.Barfield ready to go to
    their ranch & I am leaving today to go
    down & take care of her for a few days.
    I'v learned a lot about being a caregiver
    over the last year & I can tell by Jans
    picture that she feels safe & happy.
    hers.Will see her soon.
    Mary Beth

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