Wednesday, May 12, 2010
Another bad sign- scary!!!
Previously Jan has not been receptive to any questioning from me. Questions like, who is that, what is her name, would make her mad. I too have been reluctant to even ask the questions because even though I knew where this disease was going, somehow I was just hoping she wouldn't get to that point. Lately, I have been suspicious of the progression of her disease so I attempted to start a line of questioning and sure enough, the results were very hard to take. While combing her hair this morning I just came out and asked what her middle name was, and she said Owensby. I was surprised that she had that as an answer because that was her maiden name and I had not mentioned it. I told her no, that was your last name what is your middle name? She couldn't answer so I told her what it was. It is Lynn. I continued to help her and while putting her shoes on her I asked her what Kami's middle name was and she laughed it off and could not answer. I told her it was Renee. I asked her to tell me the names of Craigs boys. No answer, just laughing, but she didn't know. My fears are accurate, she is losing some very basic info that she should know. When will it be me that she forgets? I'm afraid not long. The looks out of her eyes sometimes indicate that she may be completely lost at times as to where she is and who she is with.
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My prayer is for you Don. To have the ? I don't even know what word to put there...peace, patience, understanding, that it's the disease. This is so hard to write but I want to let you know we think of you each day. Roy and Linda
ReplyDeleteSo thankful for your blog. I try to keep up with y'all through Linda Letz and Craig and Carrie. It makes me sad to see that she is going down so fast. Mother is 89 and I have had to put her in memory care facility in Southlake. She has been there a year--when I first put her there I felt she really didn't belong there but I know it was the right decision now. She has severe dementia but the good part is that as she has gotten worse, she is really better. Not angry anymore, or paranoid about people stealing things--calmer and her disposition has improved. What a blessing. I hope that will be the case with your sweet Jan. Mother spent the day at my house on Easter and all the kids and grandkids were here. She had such a good time watching them. As I was putting her in the car to go back to Watermere, she turned around and waved at everyone and said "nice meeting all of you". At first I wanted to cry but then I just decided to laugh instead--she enjoyed the day and that was what I wanted! So I have had to lower my expectations and just enjoy the good times. I hope you can do that with Jan. I am praying for you as you take care of all her needs each day and night. May God give you extraordinary patience, good health, and the determination just to put one foot in front of the other each day. May God bless Jan in ways you have never thought to ask for. Sandi
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